Reality isn't fixed -- you just think it is

I’ve been experimenting with something that feels like bending reality lately.



So obviously, I HAD to tell you about it.



Quantum physics says particles exist in every possible state until we observe them. That blows my brain! Multiple realities are out there in front of us at once, but we only ever experience the one we’re tuned into. Attention, focus, even the energy you put into your day is the dial that matches you to one version of life over another.

I’ve started testing this in small, ridiculously specific ways. When I slow down a hip hinge and feel my glutes firing totally differently, it changes how my whole workout feels. When I really notice my posture at my desk, soften my face, lower my shoulders, open my chest, the next hour flows ... differently!



My sleep feels more restorative when I honor the body’s rhythm instead of racing past it. If I pay attention to how my first sip of coffee actually tastes, it changes the way the morning lands. Every little nudge in my own awareness is tuning me to a different reality -- one that apparently already exists and is just waiting for me to match it.


I’ve also been experimenting with applying this to business opportunities. When I tune my focus and energy toward a specific project or connection, I start noticing doors I didn’t see before — emails that get answered, calls that click differently, ideas that fit better, offers coming through — all aligning with the version of success I’m matching to that day.

I've also been deep-diving on optimism and loving the interaction between these two. Most people think optimism is smiles and denial of stress. But, it's really this stubborn, disciplined act of training attention and energy toward a version of our life that feels alive, strong, and awake. I do love the woo, but biology backs this up too ... the Reticular Activating System, our brain’s filter for what we notice and focus on, is actually shaping what we see, feel, and experience. It's the reason we buy a bright blue Jeep and then start seeing bright blue Jeeps EVERYwhere. Or, we decide so-and-so must hate us and now everything they say and do seems to back that up.




I’m obsessed with tracking these tiny shifts because they are reshaping everything — energy levels, excitement, boldness, mindset, how I feel in my own skin. It's this glorious experiment that's spiritual, physics, biology, and human focus all mixing together in ways I can see, feel, and measure. It's free, always around, and ours for the taking.



There could be a placebo effect overlapping here as well, but hey, I'm ok with that!

Wanna join me? Start with one minute today ... notice a thought that drags your energy down and reframe it, just for that minute. Watch how it ripples. Because your reality is always listening and adjusting.




Stay wild + well,
Tara

Say it to slay it!

When was the last time you hyped yourself up?

We all need it. What we say to ourselves becomes our identity. Our identity determines our actions, inactions, vibe, etc. It attracts likeness and repels anything that doesn't fit the script.



It's THAT powerful.



So no, it's not harmless or inconsequential that you sometimes tell yourself you're lazy or broken or unworthy. Interestingly, if this is something that resonates, you might fit into a "people pleaser" or "internalized PDA" neurotype. For some people, the idea of setting a goal that might not come to fruition leaves them feeling so powerless that the negative self talk is a coping strategy. If you told yourself you're lazy and then skip a workout, well at least you had enough power and control that you predicted that outcome, right?!



WRONG!



But regardless of neurotypes, we do know that a feeling of safety and autonomy (and follow through!) often comes from pro-active and very intentional identity 'votes'. These are little things you can say, repeat and / or small actions that each cast a vote of who you are and who you are becoming. It's a slow crawl towards this new identity until it sets in and then it's just who you are -- you know it, you act it and others usually start to notice too.



Pick one or a few of the following to say in your head, out loud or even journal about. It's important that it feels true to you so use that as a filter. And then watch as you start to rise to the occasion.

• I have power over my behaviors, actions and reactions and that's enough.

• I am responsible for all of the cells in my body and care for them through my various lifestyle choices.

• I take care of myself the way I'd want my best friends to take care of themselves.

• Showing up for myself is the greatest gift I can share with my loved ones because of the role modeling and way it allows my best, happiest, most calm and present self to be there for them.

• "Getting" change requires making change. The ball is in my court.

• I have unconditional love for myself. I am not making changes only if and until I see physical results. I am committing to making lifelong shifts because it's best for my health ... regardless of what's "in it for me", aesthetically.

• Taking things to the next level can feel very uncomfortable and will likely show up as resistance, doubt, excuses and sometimes blame. I'm ready to face that for the sake of my own vibrancy, confidence and quality of life.

• The health and body composition goals I have are not commonly acquired in this modern world. I understand that means I will need to do things differently than the status quo and work harder than the average person. Let's do this!

• Not everyone was dealt the same topography in this life. If I have more mountains to climb than some others, I know I'll enjoy the view even more at the summit.

• My mindset is my responsibility. I am the thermostat not the thermometer.

• When I look for loses, I happen to have more loses but when I look solely for wins, I start to collect wins.

• The time will pass anyway, I might as well make progress no matter how slow the pace.

• I can do hard things.

Screen shot this. Print this. Use it however you'd like! But I do hope you try it on for size. <3




XO,
Tara



P.S. The May round of TRANSFORM: Body + Mind just wrapped up on Sunday and WOWZA did they show up for themselves! Stay tuned ... if you're on the waitlist for the September round, you'll be getting an exciting update / offer in a couple of weeks. ;-)

Controlling ONLY the controllable

Here's the biggest mistake I see people make on their health journey...

They focus on trying to control that which they can't, and hardly spend time controlling that which they CAN!



For example, no one can control what the scale will say and when. No one can control how your body will look at various stages of the process. And you certainly cannot control every bit of your moods, emotions, or motivation.



But that's totallyyyyyyy fine. Ya know why? Because those aren't the things that move the needle anyway. Stay in your lane, control ONLY what is controllable, and you'll get the results you are after.



CHECK OUT THE VIDEO below for more.



Hope you're having a great start to your week!



XO,
Tara