I'm just gonna cut to the chase ...
If you’re consistent and not getting results, your plan is wrong (for you, your goals...).
If you’re inconsistent… you’ll never even know if your plan is right or wrong, because you don't have enough data yet to judge.
Most people jump straight to “just follow the plan, stick to it,” if someone is inconsistent and that’s ... WHACK. (Do we say that anymore? I'm saying it b/c it's the perfect fit here!) It's skipping the part nobody teaches ... the skill of change.
Yup, change is a skill.
It’s not about discipline or motivation. It’s about gathering evidence about yourself.
Examples ...
No one can tell me I’m not a mother. I birthed these kids, they exist, they scream, they interrupt me constantly (haha). That’s proof.
No one can tell me I’m not a lifter. I’ve lifted weights for most of my life, several times a week, rain or shine.
That’s proof.
No one can tell me I'm a world class ski jumper. I've never ski jumped a day in my life and if I gave it a go right now, I'd be taking up residence in the nearest trauma center for quite some time. No evidence to say I'm a great ski jumper.
We behave according to our identity.
If you want to be the kind of woman who:
Actually prioritizes her bedtime
Feels confident in her clothes without obsessing over every bite
Has energy for workouts and life
…you can’t just decide it one day and make it happen. You have to collect the evidence first.
Pick one thing -- maybe sleep, maybe movement, maybe how you fuel yourself -- and stick with a baby version of it for a set period (2–4 weeks). This could mean going to bed 5 minutes earlier each day. Or taking a 5 minute walk. Or adding 10g of protein to your breakfast. Make it so small that you will do it whether you're motivated or not. Track your choices. That’s your proof starting to build.
Slowly, your brain starts whispering, “Oh…this is who I am.” You become the woman who sleeps, moves, or eats in a way that actually works for her. Soon, it will feel weird if you don't make those choices. Once that’s real, consistency stops being a struggle. You just do it. And if your plan is a solid one with the strategy and nuance you need, results show up like clockwork. And actually, it's guaranteed.
This is just one piece of the puzzle, but it’s huge. If you want more of these practical, counterintuitive, science-backed pieces of the skill of change, check out The Replay Lounge in The Metabolic Edge. Think Netflix for women’s health ... metabolism, hormones, longevity, body composition. Even this one piece alone is worth the price of admission.
Ok, you're up! Pick one thing this week and start gathering your evidence. And if you want, comment and tell me what you'll be gathering evidence about. I'd love to cheer you on.
Stay wild and welll,
Tara